Grief is a natural response to loss. Grief can be identified as the emotional suffering you experience when someone or something you love is taken away and normally the more significant the loss the more intense the grief will be. It’s important to remember that grief and mourning is a process and not an event.
Losing a family member, friend or someone you deeply care about is very painful. During this time, you may experience a number of emotions as you respond to the pain and sadness you are feeling. While this time is difficult, it’s important to remember that these are normal emotions that people experience as part of their loss.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve but there are healthy ways to cope as you journey through grief. There are many resources, such as books, that you can use to help understand and cope with grief. Coping with Grief by Mal McKissock and Experiencing Grief by H. Norman Wright are two books that we recommend. Please also find a list of helpful contacts below:
During our journey through grief and mourning, we all encounter six needs we must meet if we are to heal:
Author, educator, and grief counsellor Dr. Alan Wolfelt is known across North America for his inspirational teaching gifts. His compassionate messages about healing in grief speak not only to the intellect, but to the hearts of all who hear him.
There is no specific time frame for grieving to begin or end. How long it takes can differ from person to person.
Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long term. For real healing, it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.
Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.
Grief is the internal thoughts and feelings we experience when someone we love dies. Mourning, on the other hand, is taking the internal experience of grief and expressing it outside ourselves.